Educated Entrepreneurship: The Pain Reliever to Nigeria’s Economic Headache

Source: Sell and Succeed

Education here is not restricted to “education” in conventional terms: going to school or getting a degree, rather any kind of education that fosters self and community development- the ability to seek and utilize [keyword: utilize] knowledge through every ethical means.

Education is not limited to the four-walls of any school. It is simply a process of acquiring relevant and useful knowledge be it under a mango tree or in the massive Amphitheatre in Obafemi Awolowo University (O.A.U.).

Yes you have a degree but are you educated though?

You can’t claim to be educated until you can truly add or create meaningful value with what you know. A lot of people went to school but cannot create or give meaningful value with what they learnt and that’s our problem!

Most of the population in Nigeria is poorly educated. Many of those who own surviving businesses have little knowledge on how to invest to grow the business. They have no strategies to help the business grow or succeed. They stay stuck doing the same thing and getting the same results if not worse, year after year:

That tailor you’ve known since childhood, still running the same shop the same way with very little improvement to show while the little boy of those days is now a successful tailor thanks to his education that has exposed him to the new way of marketing via social media and also new trends and methods of fashion design and sewing via Youtube videos and so on; that printer in your area still giving the same quality of prints with little or no improvements over the years- different employees, same grumpy/sloppy attitude to work.

The impact of education on our economy:

Our large population is only an advantage when majority are well educated. Whether formal or informal, knowledge is knowledge! If we need to get people under mango trees and educate them then let’s get going with that.

Poor education means that people cannot appreciate or value the development and technology that the global world is blessed with today. Therefore, they do not see the need for it and as a result they cannot strive to achieve it. Being educated means we can truly value and strive for the advancement in technology and economic development characteristic of the developed world rather than stay languishing in prolonged backwardness.

Without education (formal or informal) people are uninspired, they do not have the knowledge that can ginger them to take meaningful action. Real education inspires. It inspires you to seek ways to create/ add value, to be of great contribution to the development of yourself and your society.

According to English Philosopher Ken Robinson, we learn to be innovative and entrepreneurial by exploring, questioning assumptions, using imagination and synthesizing information. Education gives you the ability to achieve all that.

Real Education changes your mentality; it expands and deepens your imagination. It makes you hunger for more adventure and new ways to explore the knowledge gained. Real education gives you an attitude, an attitude that is intolerant of mediocrity that sadly, has dominated our society.

Real Education means we have more highly skilled labor force which is key to the economic development of any nation.

One of the factors that spurred the growth of the American economy is the enlightened or educated state of the majority. Innovations and inventions could be tested and utilized by the American market. America has one of the best markets for testing new developments because producers can get meaningful feedback from the ever curious market that can be used to develop their products and services. The American market demands excellence and is quick to condemn mediocrity. This makes the producers challenged and inspired to give more and improve continuously.

Imagine a situation where a Nigerian entrepreneur has labored so hard to advance his field of business but sadly the market is not even enlightened enough and thus ready to appreciate his/her efforts. The entrepreneur has little option but to scale down his/ her strategies to fit the market and that slows down our progress! Still, educated entrepreneurs have a huge role to play in the development of our mentality or thinking. No one ever imagined the possibilities that abound in the mobile world until the smart phones came around. This simply tells us that some of the greatest influencers of social and economic change, growth and development are the entrepreneurs.

We think we need to have a lot of money to make an impact, to make something out of our lives but really the real test for success is making something out of nothing; achieving abundance out of scarcity. From that little drop of water an ocean becomes. However without relevant knowledge i.e. education, all the money or resources in the world would never be enough to make meaningful impact.

Educated Entrepreneurship?

I was reading about Adam Smith’s theory of wealth creation when I got the inspiration to write this article. Adam Smith was a Scottish Economist whose works have been very influential in the development of the global economy we have today and is renowned as the father of modern economics. In one of his works he introduced a concept, “The invisible Hand” which in summary, says:

Businesspeople work primarily for their own prosperity and growth. Yet as they try to improve their own situation in life, their efforts serve as an “invisible hand” that helps the economy grow and prosper through the production of needed goods, services and ideas.

Thus the invisible hand turns self-directed gain into social and economic benefits for all.

[Source: Understanding Business- McGraw-Hill/Irwin Publishers, 7th ed., pg. 39]

This simply depicts the great impact that entrepreneurship can have on our economy however entrepreneurship will hardly be impactful if it isn’t being fueled by knowledge- education, continuous education.

Educated Entrepreneurship means seeking and applying updated knowledge continuously as regards all facets of building and running a successful business. An entrepreneur or business owner should be a lifelong learner and should never get to a point where they become “all knowing” just because they have been in business for donkey years.

Unfortunately many business owners today have buried their business in obsolete methodologies and strategies. They are hugely unenlightened while those who have even got some exposure kill their business with the stubborn “I-have-been-in-this-business-for-donkey-years” attitude that holds them back from greatness.

The new generation entrepreneurs, the more energetic Generation Z and their elder brothers and sisters (Generation Y or Millennials) are surprisingly not as enlightened as we think they are. No, you do not need an MBA to run a successful business but you do need to have a good command of key business, finance or marketing terms and strategies, you need to have updated knowledge about what is really happening locally and internationally in your chosen field. This will inspire you to strive for more and better achievements.

Educated entrepreneurship means you know your rights as an entrepreneur, your responsibilities and obligations, you know the value of what you are doing to the Nigerian economy and as such, cannot be easily frustrated and exploited by unscrupulous government officials. You have enough knowledge and inspiration to fight your battles.

A lot of successful businesses have had their efforts frustrated at some point by government policies, the media, regulatory bodies and so on but that is just one of the many tests of entrepreneurial success- They fought hard and rose above the obstacles.

Everyone is clamoring for agriculture but without the needed education, these farmers will fail to make the most of what they have. Farmers have to stay learning so that they can help to drive a revolution in the way farming is being done. If we keep using the same old tools and old knowledge without strategic efforts to improve on them, we’ll hardly get meaningful results

So here’s the Challenge:

  • How can we get our largely uneducated population to first and foremost develop interest in proper education needed to build and develop their business?
  •  What will be the most effective methods or channels for making this happen?
  • Who will be involved in this? Business consultants? NGOs? Corporate individuals? The public sector?

We need to spread the message across. We need to help this population achieve education. Without education, our people would continue to rely on donations from NGOs and when they exhaust that they’ll return to their initial state of wretchedness.

Let’s stop limiting education to schools and colleges. How can we get our largely uneducated population to start right from where they are, to acquire the education they need in their various fields of labor which can be subsequently improved upon so that we can upgrade our GDP and individual standard of living?

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day but teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Teach a person to start a fish farm and he/she will be able to feed a village for a lifetime.”

– Understanding Business (McGraw-Hill/Irwin Publishers, 7th ed., pg. 38)

Until our entrepreneurs and business owners begin to seek and apply knowledge obtained by education in their respective endeavors, all we’ll continue to have will be roadside shop and kiosk owners who struggle to feed their family and yet stick the entrepreneur title on their hats.



Anniversary Confessions: How I Overcame my “Fear of Writing”


My writing ability remains a miracle to behold: I basically had to pray my way into it. Fear of mediocrity (or yarning dust), perfectionism, over-reliance on self motivation that wasn’t forthcoming and so on held me back like a curse. I would include “write…” in my to-do list everyday and then end up with a blank slate- “nothing to write home about”.

All my adult life I have always had series of notebooks I carry around like a purse. There I write down random to deep thoughts that show up in my mind from time to time. I would question myself, criticize myself, and ginger myself in these notebooks.

However I noticed something… each time I went through such exercise, it was usually accompanied by some kind of serenity or fierce will that previously never existed. It elevated me from mediocrity and momentary bouts of indiscipline to excellence and diligence on several occasions most remarkably while in the university.

I would hold “motivational talks” with myself and sometimes imagine myself speaking to some imaginary audience with me seated in the front row but whenever I tried to articulate them in writing I failed.

English Language turned out to be much more difficult than I thought!

And then one day I summoned courage. My friend had just launched her blog, what a great motivation that was! I got the ginger and set up my blog. I was going to become a motivational writer! Sounds cool doesn’t it? But then who’s a writer without writing? Where’s the content?

***Blank stare***

Then I decided: my random journalistic jottings were going to lead me to one of my most desired purpose in life. Why write to ginger myself alone when I can pass the positive energy on to others? The desire for impactful writing became so strong; I picked up interest in reading deeply inspiring and articulate books and articles.

I would read and then “forget” what I have read; cramming up quotes and all that stuff from personal development books was never a strength that I had, I would end up “remixing” them so I never bothered. However, the positive messages and energy from these great books diffused subtly into my subconscious mind. It was an unconscious process, all the while I kept thinking up ways to overcome my fear of writing, it was already happening, subtly, and eventually all I had to do was “just do it”.

The motivation to write never came, the words never got easier to craft. I had to get over my perfectionism, fear of mediocrity and just write!

It was hard but I ignored the hardship. Back then, I had a habit of literally running away whenever I was having a rough or tough start that caused me to stay stuck in fear but this time I ignored that too and just got right into it. I would pause for minutes thinking up the right or best words to express or convey a thought but I didn’t run. I did this for a while until finally I broke free of the mental barrier I had created for myself against writing.

Then the words started pouring out like… *please insert your preferred metaphor*. It was as though the key to my subconscious abilities had been unlocked.

I would cut out weak, irrelevant lines and add up adjectives with great noun-qualifying strength. I would look up the meaning and use of words that jumped right out of my subconscious mind into my thoughts just to be sure my grammar and semantics were right.

I would research related quotes to add depth to my content and then I would go over my writings again and again to refine each line till it made the most sense (to me and my imaginary audience).

Finally on my birthday in 2015, I put finishing touches to the blog and hit publish. At about 11 pm that day, my very first post came alive! With that first write up, I was able to break free of my self-inflicted fear of writing, all thanks to God.

Fast forward July 5th, 2017…

I really can’t express how much growth I have acquired since I sent out that first post. I now have a more mature outlook on life and personal development has become part and parcel of my life. Writing about personal development has challenged me to work harder at it.

Now I have about 30 posts on my blog. I also have posts on a wedding blog and other websites with more being drafted for publishing.

Because I am a lot more aware than before, life has become a lot more “challenging”. The journey hasn’t gotten any easier and I haven’t attained perfection either. I have become even more aware of the flaws in my personality and that makes personal development an even more challenging activity for me. But I like the challenge. Working at it, though frustrating sometimes, (it can be so darn hard to change and quit our bad habits) gives me hope. When I look back at how I used to be I know that it’s worth the effort.

Something about personal development, it seems so self-centered, but then he who fails to develop himself will be of no relevance in developing his family, the community, let alone a whole nation.

“See a man that labours on improving himself and in no time, he’d become an inspiration to others who only dream to be in his shoes. Soon, people observing him, watching him grow and develop everyday would in no time pick themselves up and assume the challenge. No one likes to be left behind.”

Happy 2nd anniversary,!


Self-Reflection: The Path to a Better Life




Someone once asked me… “Where do you get your write-ups from? Those posts are beyond you!”

*blink* *blink* Awkward silence…

My posts are probably too advanced for where I am at the moment (I mean who am I to tell people what to do with their lives?) but somehow, I just can’t wait till I “get there” before I begin to share my reflections, lessons and observations. That’s like waiting to get home before telling my cousin who’s also on her way home where the keys are.

But then again, who am I sharing these with?


Well, yes you! However, these words are not meant for you alone, but for me too. It is like my “higher self” writing to my normal self and every other person out there that can connect to the topic. I am not just writing to an audience, I am part of the audience. Maybe that’s why I’m able to write with so much passion (or vexation): I am challenging myself as well to make better decisions and live a better life!

The Path to a better life? Reflection! Reflection!! Reflection!!!

I hear people say things like “Don’t take advice except its some accomplished guru telling you what to do with your life.”

Well, one of the most effective advice you’ll ever find is the one that comes from within… your conscience. Sadly people tend to run from their conscience until they hear those same words again from some accomplished guru they claim to respect or admire.

No one knows your journey better than you. No one knows your life mistakes, strengths and weaknesses better than you. It is just that we tend to ignore these things and then wait until someone else comes to validate their existence.

One way to get in touch with our conscience is by reflection… silence. But many run, they flee from this very act. How many people have the mind to stand face to face with the truth, the hard-core-truth?, which is what our conscience presents to us. We’d rather fill up this time with social media, TV and endless bants or rants about other people’s lives and accomplishments.

Lessons from the Past…

One of my best accomplishments in life, all thanks to God, sprang up from a moment of deep, intense self-reflection even before I knew what that was: Me, alone with my thoughts, reflecting upon my then present and past circumstances.

It was back in the university, and no, I wasn’t messing around, I just wasn’t doing enough. I was a bit distracted and was taking certain things for granted.

I started out great, though not on purpose. I underestimated my abilities until I saw my first ever result… a 4.83 GPA, first semester, 100 level. Along the way, I started getting comfortable and my performance started fluctuating. Still on a first class over all but I wasn’t putting in my best effort to not just maintain it but even improve upon it. At some point I consciously aimed for a 5.0 GPA per semester but then instead of hitting it I was sliding even farther behind.

It was time again for exams, second semester, 300 level and I set out to read in an empty lecture room (being a “people person”- interested in people either by observation or by interaction- I concentrate better studying alone than with people around me). I didn’t plan to reflect, it just happened. I found myself writing to myself on a piece of paper:

“What is wrong with you?”

and then I started listing out everything that was indeed wrong with me. In a while I was staring at my weaknesses face to face.

No, I didn’t wait for my parents or anyone to notice and then talk about it. I confronted myself.

And then it happened…

All thanks to God, I hit the 5.0 GPA in first semester 400 level, though I encountered another realization through reflection on why it took so long to get it. I might share that in another post, someday. But remember this:

You do not have to sit for hours at a motivational seminar, or spend days reading motivational books to confront the weaknesses of your life.

Sometimes we get so addicted to reading motivational stuff without really channeling the energy obtained on anything worthwhile.

I got to know about motivational books and all after graduation from the university, thank God for Omotayo B. Adeoye, my friend and then “rival” (haha! jokes. Tayo was an inspiration on her own), who gave me a collection of over 200 e-books. I haven’t even gotten “quarter-way” yet.

My own personal confrontation with myself produced one of the biggest motivations I could ever find, at that moment.

Reading motivational books and articles post-uni has only helped me to improve the process of personal development and has given me more profound things to think and reflect upon. It has helped to refine my thoughts and actions and become even better at self assessment. It has helped to improve my writing skills too, to the point where I can share lessons articulately with you and I.

So my dear friend, what are you waiting for? Brian Tracy’s upcoming book on “Time Management and Productivity”? Done a pre-order yet? Or you’re waiting for your spouse or parents to notice how “slacky” you have been lately and then give you an hour’s worth of lecture before you take necessary steps to make necessary changes?

At every point in our lives, we would always need self-reflection so that we do not lose sight of our goals, or lose focus needed to live on purpose and attain fulfillment in life. And yes, this is me looking back at my journey so far to find wisdom and motivation for the present and then the future.

Go ahead and confront all such weaknesses that are holding you back from your breakthrough. Let your conscience help you grow, God put it in you for a reason!

EXPERIENCE: How to Unlock Your Well of Wisdom


Experience is like an orange… what you squeeze out is what you get. You have to squeeze as much juice from your orange as you can get, taste it and then savor the sweetness or sourness of it.

Many people let their experiences go without getting anything meaningful out of them. They see and feel things happen but they never question, they never ask, they never ponder, they never wonder. They just live through them and move on to the next. Oh, what a waste!

Our life basically, is made up of experiences. From the day we were born till the day we die, it’s all just experiences upon experiences- our own personal experiences and the shared experiences of others.

And embedded in our life experiences is the key to great wisdom if only man would reflect.

An open mind, not limited by critical thinking and skepticism is one of the great attributes of a man or woman with wisdom. When you allow biased beliefs and opinions get in the way of your analyses or learning you hardly get anything meaningful or mind-enriching out of it.

When other people share their life experiences with you, it is not for your entertainment. Listen, question, ponder and reflect, there’s something for you as well. What lessons can you obtain from your own experiences and those of other people?

A smart way to live…

Why wait until “it” happens to you before learning about how to deal with whatever “it” means.

“Life has a way of rewarding the prepared even when he/she’s not prepared enough.

And you can never be prepared enough for the unpredictable circumstances that show up in life… Prepare anyway.”


Though our circumstances may differ (and they usually do), we all do not pass through the same life experiences: The fact that your friends married “the wrong men/women” really doesn’t mean all men/women are whack and you’d end up with same. It really doesn’t mean you should run from marriage for fear of marrying the wrong person. Rather you should reflect upon the circumstances and the roles each of your friends and their spouse had to play in their experience.

That’s where having an objective and open mind comes into play.

Without any form of bias towards your friends, what lessons can you learn from them that would help you avoid making the same mistakes as they did?

Connecting dots…

I have gone over some of my past experiences over and over again to find useful links that can be used to advance or improve my present situation.

There were times in the past when you passed through challenges or trying circumstances, how did you deal with them? Sometimes our past experiences show up again dressed in different clothes with a different name and circumstance.

How were you able to conquer your fears in the past? What moves can you borrow and then improve upon to tackle your present situation?

Sometimes, the experience is new, to you, but there are people who have had similar experiences, what can you learn from them that can help you deal with your own situation gracefully?

When connecting dots…

One great thing about past experiences: you saw the beginning and then the end, even though the end might have just been the beginning of another episode, you know what led to what and you saw how the challenges were overcome.

How did your obedience (or disobedience) to God or your parents turn out for you? If you had listened to that advice you were given years ago, what difference do you think it would have made in your life today?

If Steve Jobs never got kicked out of Apple initially would the iPhone still have come into existence? Steve Job’s experiences outside Apple, the struggles he faced restarting and running his own companies (NeXT, Pixar), the ideas he got while at it all contributed to the success he eventually had on returning to Apple.

Right there in our life experiences, there are dots to be connected, great lessons to be learned. But in all of these don’t forget to pray for divine wisdom; the kind of wisdom that helps you see the light in every dark situation, that helps you grow and then grow other people, the kind of wisdom that keeps you curious and enthusiastic about learning more from your own life experiences and the experiences of others.

And wisdom, like intelligence, is a gift- it should be used for the good of mankind.


emotional intelligence

Really, I find complaining or feeling bad about unaccomplished goals or target a waste of time.

You are not a machine; there are times when you don’t meet your own high expectations of yourself. Beating yourself up or playing the blame game is a mere waste of time and expendable energy. And guess what? That would only lead to negative outcomes like depression and pessimism, low self esteem and even maybe unnecessarily high blood pressure.

Well, here’s some good news: You can change your (over-the-top or bad-hormones-producing) mood as soon as within the next 60 seconds. Haha.. yeah, 60 seconds. Wondering how? I do it every time and anytime this happens.

Have you seen the “Hitler” movie on Adolf Hitler? Did you notice how he went from crazily angry and bad tempered to cool the next minute? (Although his seemed quite psycho, I don’t think I ever wanna be that crazy) I don’t know how he did that but yeah.. something like that.

It begins with self awareness.

People who are self aware are usually quick to notice (key word: notice) when they are angry or excited before the guy or girl next to them starts to feel uncomfortably aware of it. Use that to your advantage.

Take a deep breath (you can sigh if you want). You need to identify and acknowledge your bad mood first and foremost then ask yourself this question:

  • What positive result(s) would this mood bring?

If you find one (just one) then you can go on with your sorry mood and forget about our lil’ game.

However, if you find none then it’s time to ask the next question:

  • What is the first step I need to take to fix the fixable and mend the mend able?

 If there’s nothing to fix then ask:

  • What’s the next best thing I can do right now to produce positive results and recharge my go getter batteries?

These questions make you think in positively productive ways. They get your “problem-solving hormones” up and as such you’ll find that your pathetic mood disappears in no time and you’re back on your feet, getting things done and achieving great results.

“One of the greatest enemies of progress is not failure rather it is your negative attitude or reaction towards your mistakes and failures.”

– Mind Convos

 Get into the Emotional Intelligence game and become one of the highest achievers in your workplace and environment. Get the moody ones curious about your consistently positive vibes and energy.

All thanks to God, the Emotional Intelligence game helped me get a First Class Honors (Bachelor’s degree) in the university. Who knows what other great achievements are awaiting you as soon as you get in the game!

Laziness is a Sin. Live on Purpose



Have you ever wondered why you’re so good in mathematics? Highly artistic and intuitive? Or so curious and intelligent?

Have you ever wondered why you find it so easy to interact with people and influence them to take decisions meanwhile your close friend is pretty timid and can hardly initiate or hold a conversation?

Have you ever wondered why you detest disorderliness and would rather take the pain to get things organized and well done?

Have you ever wondered why coming up with (legal) money making ideas come so easily to you while your hardworking, intelligent friends struggle at it?

Have you ever wondered why your kidneys and lungs are still functioning properly while someone your age somewhere is on life support?

Have you ever wondered why you’re still alive and not on a sick bed or six feet under?

“There is something only you can give and without it, someone is being disallowed a healing, a laugh, an uplift to a better quality of life.”

– Asha Tyson (How I Retired at 26)

Being alive is a gift, a favor that cannot be returned. However, the best attempt at returning the favor would be your ability to exude gratitude in your way of life.

When you choose to spend your life being idle and of little use to yourself and others, you are exhibiting one of the greatest forms of ingratitude.

A man can labor for years… on the wrong thing, knowing fully well that his gifts exist to be utilized for a greater cause. He works… 40 hours a week, not less than 200 days a year yet even in the day the nightmare of an unfulfilled end keeps him from attaining that blissful feeling he truly desires.

The “living on purpose” journey seems too hard and uncertain, he’d rather live the easy way… “The way of the crowd”. He is a lazy man in denial.

Why are you alive?

Why were you created?

What is your purpose on earth?!

“I don’t care about purpose I just wanna make money and get filthy rich!”

Many are rich and famous but much later in life they start wincing against the pains of regret, their inner selves begin calling out to them, their conscience constantly questioning… “Is this all there is to living?”

A man can have multiple sources of income and enjoy many of the great luxuries of life. But that has little to do with the purpose of his existence.

Your purpose is that thing you have been “customized” for, that thing you have been given a special ability to accomplish, that thing that only you have been equipped to give, to share, to contribute.

Your purpose is why you were created; the reason why you are where you are at the moment, your reason for being alive.

When you spend your life chasing after status symbols or trying to fit in a particular social status, you are only wasting your time on earth.

Your wealth is of no value if you’re holding on to it so tightly, and you find it difficult to spend on a good cause or give to the ones in need.

Many have had more before you only to leave the world with nothing at all.

Your gifts and abilities exist to be utilized for the good of others. Don’t ignore them, don’t underestimate their usefulness. Don’t live your life in “idleness”. Go out and give value.

You probably think working your butt off at work to get the money, pay the bills and live in sophistication is all there is to your existence but give it some deep thought… What if there’s more?

“yo! It is my life… I can just do what I like. I really don’t care.” 

When you run a business that is fulfilling a need and then you feel you have the power to sit and do nothing because you want to. No one can make you work if you don’t want to. Think about the souls who will be denied the value you bring.

How would you feel if your favorite brand packed up and stopped production or service? If Nestle stopped producing Milo, Coca cola stopped sharing happiness through coke and MTN stopped operation because the economy has become too tough or some people just wanna “rest”?

How would you feel if you can’t get quality food stuff in the market because farmers are tired, the economy has been unfair so they just wanna “rest”?

Someone somewhere would be denied cheap, healthy breakfast because you’re feeling too lazy to stay consistent in your “roadside akara-frying” business.

Someone somewhere would be denied a better quality of life because you have chosen to let laziness rule in your business and now produce or sell inferior products or services.

Sometimes we think we’re doing it for the money but really, if you would give it a deep thought, the value you give by doing your business right, goes way beyond whatever is being paid in return by your customers. Your ability to just show up daily and make things happen is phenomenal and in that, really, lays your great purpose.

It takes great discipline, passion, commitment and grace to consistently provide great value. It takes purpose to do it right all the time.

We tend to think of purpose as some grand idea or grand accomplishment but no, sometimes it is just you going about daily, doing the little things you can to make a significant difference in people’s lives.

The end result of a life lived on purpose is fulfillment.

How to Elevate Your Life can be Pretty Simple: Just Say NO!



When you think of the word “angel”, you imagine someone who’s extremely nice and would never say NO to your requests, he/she would do anything else in this world but say NO to you.

Sadly, there are no angels on earth, you’d have to get to heaven to find one.

There are many factors that determine whether we achieve success or fulfillment in life or not and while hard work, diligence and determination are required to achieve and maintain that, your ability to say NO when and where necessary can decide whether you make it eventually or not.

The reason why some people are not where they want to be is not because President Buhari of Nigeria is slow and vague in making economic decisions, it is not because of the global recession, neither is it because Donald Trump will become President of America in January, 2017, rather it is due to their inability to say NO when they need to: NO to meaningless engagements, NO to popular opinions that lack depth, NO to requests that tamper with their integrity and self-discipline…

I have said NO a gazillion times in the course of my life. However, I have discovered that on growing up and becoming an adult, it has become a lot more difficult especially when your really close friend, boss, colleague or family member is giving you that puppy eye or stern look that tells you subtly that your future relationship depends on it or when the rest of the world who’s said YES seem to be having all the fun in the world while at it.

So how does using the word NO change your life for good?

It makes you an authentic person: The world is filled with so much distrust and lack of integrity. People find it way easier to make promises they will not keep than say NO right away and be free of unnecessary baggage. Cultivating the habit of using an authentic NO will help you develop the fine quality of authenticity and thus you stand out from the less disciplined crowd.

Not everyone will love you for this but then, good riddance!

It adds more life to your years and more years to your life:

By using an authentic NO at the right time, you get to live more meaningfully by focusing only on things that really matter and weeding out unnecessary engagements.

Some people complain that 24 hours seem pretty short to achieve their set goals but then think about this: more than half of people in this category actually spend a lot of their time on things that add no value to their existence: chats and arguments on past activities of celebrities and footballers, gossip and complaining about things they could actually do something about or even worse things they cannot change, among others.

Until you cultivate the habit of saying NO to these kinds of activities, even a million hours will never be enough. You will miss out on living a really fulfilled life because unsorted responsibilities and activities will keep piling up on you.

It helps you develop authentic relationships with people that value authenticity:

Even though I do not totally agree with the opinion that “you are who you attract” because in my opinion “even the devil wants to go to heaven but going to heaven wouldn’t make him change his evil ways”. Being a good person really doesn’t mean only good people would be attracted to you, even shady and unscrupulous people would try to get close to you, however, being an authentic person increases your chances of being appreciated and approached by authentic people or those that value such traits.

It keeps you healthy and baggage free: I have always wondered how our emotions and thoughts affect our health, but then the rising cases of hypertension, high blood pressure, stroke and the likes with leading causes being traced to worry, fear and fatigue has made me realize how strong the connection is. When you keep your life streamlined and focused by saying NO to irrelevant activities and engagements, you get to free your thoughts from worry and anxiety, you get to live intentionally and not under unnecessary pressure from external sources.

And finally,

It allows you to be of meaningful contribution because you know a YES means you’re fully committed and you’ll put in your best effort to achieve the desired outcome.


How to Say NO without hurting anyone’s feelings

  • Try suggesting alternative options
  • Show concern but be firm about why you think you are not the right fit for the purpose
  • Don’t give any misleading statements that will keep them hopeful when you know you will not change your mind
  • Get your intentions right: be sure you’re saying no for the right reasons, and have also given it ample thought, pros and cons, before giving your reply.




Sometimes I think that I am not qualified to give personal development tips and advice, I mean I haven’t broken any world record neither have I fed 5 thousand people with 5 loaves of bread and 2 fish.

However, I have benefited greatly from my moments of self awareness and reflection. They have helped me ace exams, execute projects successfully and make better/ more rewarding decisions in life.

As such I have come to convince myself: Even if you do not become the richest or the most successful woman in the world, even if you do not live to see the next decade or century, even if you never achieve your dreams, by sharing your stories and positive thoughts, you can support and encourage others in their own journey through life; You can help someone else achieve much more.

And from my experience in writing so far, I have come to discover the truth in this quote:

“Form the habit of encouraging others, and you will find it a wonderful tonic for both those encouraged and yourself, for you will get back encouraging and uplifting thoughts.”

– Theron Dumont (Author: The Power of Concentration)

It is with this uplifting thought that I write this post. I sincerely hope that you’re able to tap into the positive energy and then let it flow graciously to those around you.



– Life is lived bits by bits. You will never cross the ocean if you do not lose sight of the shore:

This is something I remind myself of all the time especially when I find myself getting overwhelmed by some demanding project or task but really, it applies to all areas of life.

We tend to get carried away by the size of our dreams and aspirations, our goals and ambitions and as such get easily overwhelmed and discouraged.

We forget that the little steps taken daily by us are what leads to the final picture: The series of assignments, tests and exams that form your BSc. or MSc. certificates/ qualifications; the daily bathing, feeding, clothing, and caring for the little child till his/ her maturity (I have been guilty of always imagining how much work it’s going to take for a nursing mother to grow her child), It’s all about the little steps and tasks well executed on a daily basis.

So next time you find yourself procrastinating or losing hope over the magnitude of work you have to do to succeed at anything, remind yourself that you do not have to do it all at once. Take your time to properly breakdown your goals/ tasks into executable SMART chunks and then remember to…

– Appreciate the little wins:

This is something I used to ignore as well. We’re always looking forward to the next task, assignment or project and then it becomes so easy to get stressed.

Appreciating and showing gratitude for the little successes we achieve in our daily tasks enables us to maintain the needed motivation to achieve our goals.

While it is great to appreciate little wins, it is also important to remember your past glories and blessings. Not to find reasons to be proud and arrogant but rather to find inspiration/ motivation in yourself- your journey so far – and not elsewhere.

If you could score a C in that subject you found really difficult back then, then believe that you can totally ace this new challenge. And why would that be? Because what you had to do to get that C has made you stronger, sharper, smarter and more qualified. You are not the same person that you were before then. You have grown tremendously. Acknowledge that growth and build your next aspiration on it. Let it propel you to aim higher and raise your stakes.

Building momentum on your past wins however little, will go a long way in providing the needed self confidence and optimism to conquer your next challenge.

– Surround Yourself with Positive People:

When you spend time with great personalities who exude positive energy and character, it makes life way easier and enjoyable to live. You are always fired up for new challenges and new successes.

Dissociate from people who make you feel bad about yourself, people who hardly encourage you to be better, also people who make you feel like giving up on your personal growth.

Having people who believe in you and support you is not commonplace and is therefore a blessing to those who do have them. However, we should make effort to reach out to these kinds of personalities wherever we find them (on social media or elsewhere) and be willing to also make as much impact because really it takes two (or more) to tango. Do not expect to always be at the receiving end, go out and give something of yourself too.

– Take Time to Unplug:

Life can be really “noisy” sometimes; So much is happening in the news, in your environment, your work place, and sometimes even in your immediate/ extended family.

Well, guess what?

You really do not have to be a part of the noise all the time. Take some time to disconnect from unnecessary activities and just focus on you: your well being. As we grow older in life, we’ll get to find more sense in this act. A lot of people are unnecessarily busy with nothing great to show for it. There’s always an event, or an activity to be involved in.

The earlier you realize that the rate of your personal growth is dependent on how much time you spend with yourself and your loved ones, how much you really invest into meaningful relationships and engagements, the easier it becomes to live and truly enjoy life.

And when all else fails…

Remember that you didn’t “fall from heaven”. There is a God that is still there.

Take your relationship with God a lot more seriously because whether you believe it or not, things can get out of your control, sometimes even your loved ones cannot help you as much as they’d love to, they cannot ease your pain and make you feel better.

Certain aspects of life still lie way beyond your control or imagination and really there’s no point in trying to force it. It only makes sense to submit totally to the one who created you and all other beings in order to have life submit to you as well.

Irrespective of whatever challenges you face, always remember these little tips and you will find things way easier than ever as you paddle enthusiastically through your own sea of life.



We live in an inconsistent world…

Life is not constant.

Times are always changing; situations are never always the same.

One day, you are comfortable, all is well with you and then another day, you find yourself in a tough situation but then you just can’t give up. You’ve got to keep going, you’ve got to thrive and not just survive.

Some days you wake up strong, healthy and happy, some days you don’t feel so strong, you probably got flu or something and then some days you’re just not emotionally upbeat.  It just happens but you still gotta work, you still gotta make things happen, you can’t stop yet, you just have to keep going.

Maybe take some time to rest and recuperate but you know you’re going back sooner or later to make your own little contribution in the world either by the way of your work or your time.

So whenever you’re making or taking any life decision like marriage, career, and so on, remember to ask yourself some probing questions:

  • Would my love for this remain constant even in the face of life’s unpredictable circumstances?
  • Would I be satisfied and happy with this no matter how rough or tough life gets?

We can never be detailed enough while planning for the future; we can never be too sure.

However, we can take that leap of faith while knowing in our hearts that regardless of what the consequences are, life is full of second chances, and contrary to popular belief, opportunities “hardly come but once”; we can make positive changes and live mindfully, in appreciation of every single circumstance we encounter along the way.




You don’t value what you have.


Everyone sees gold in you except you.

You give excuses to explain why you’re not as great as people think.

You see down-talking yourself as being humble.

You try not to excel beyond the normal.

You don’t enjoy the attention that being excellent brings you because:


you’re scared of becoming proud.

you’re scared of not being able to keep it up.

you don’t think you deserve the commendations.

you think it’s just a flash in the pan.


But you want the success, and every good thing that comes with it;

The money, the love, the recognition and so on

As long as you stay humble and God-fearing.


Well then, you’ve got to decide now!

To have all of these and more, you have to value what you have:

The God-given gifts and abilities you have been blessed with.


Let the world know that God didn’t bless you so that you could throw it all away.

You have been blessed for a purpose;

Find it, Cherish it, Make the best of it.


Stop hiding now, let your inner light shine through and illuminate the world!